Ask any business owner and they’ll tell you the same thing. Reviews are essential. They keep people aligned, they surface problems early, they help good people grow.
But here’s what I’ve noticed. Almost nobody has actually been taught how to run one well.
Managers are handed a form or an online tool and a deadline, and the rest is assumed to figure itself out. It doesn’t. So the conversation becomes a box-ticking exercise, rushed through in thirty minutes, and everyone leaves the room slightly relieved it’s over.
Somewhere along the way, the performance review became understood as a one-time annual event. A single meeting in December that’s supposed to capture an entire year of work.
The most powerful shift any organisation can make is the simplest one: stop saving feedback for the annual review and start making it part of how work happens every day.
We do not mean constant formal check-ins that eat everyone’s calendar, but a culture where a manager notices something good and says so, where a team member can ask for input on a piece of work without feeling awkward about it, and where honest conversation is normal, not exceptional.
When feedback flows like this, as part of the everyday rhythm of work, by the time the formal review conversation arrives, there are no surprises. Nothing in the room that hasn’t already been said. No anxiety about what is coming.
Most performance issues aren’t actually performance issues, they’re clarity issues.
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Here’s what matters most.
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Here’s what great looks like.
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Here’s how we measure progress.
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Here’s how we’ll support you.
The best way of assigning accountability is shorter goal cycles, quarterly is the sweet spot for most, that allow objectives to be recalibrated as priorities evolve. OKRs, when they are set collaboratively rather than handed down from above, work beautifully for this. They connect individual work to something bigger. They are specific enough to be meaningful. And they are reviewed regularly enough to stay relevant.
The magic, and we cannot stress this enough, is in the co-creation. When a person sets their own goals in genuine dialogue with their manager, they own those goals in a way that no top-down objective will ever achieve. They are not working towards the company’s target. They are working towards something they chose, connected to something they care about.
When the conversation about how someone is growing is also the conversation about what they are going to be paid, one of those conversations wins. Every time.
The person across the table is not thinking about their blind spots or their growth edges. They are waiting to find out about their salary. And the manager is not thinking about how to be genuinely useful. They are managing the emotional weight of a compensation decision.
Separate these conversations, ideally by several weeks, and the development conversation becomes genuinely curious. The person opens up. Real things get said. The manager can be honest without it feeling like a financial verdict.
And the compensation conversation, when it comes, is calmer, more grounded, more transparent, because it is not carrying the emotional load of everything else.
Performance management is not primarily about finding what is wrong. It is about amplifying what is right.
Here’s what this means. Spend more time recognising than correcting, notice good work in the moment and name it specifically, not “great job” but “the way you handled that client conversation this morning was exceptional, you stayed calm, you listened fully, and you found a solution that nobody else had thought of.”
If you are reading this and thinking I want to do this differently but I don’t know where to begin, here is the most practical thing we can offer you.
Just a decision to treat performance management as what it always should have been, a genuine, ongoing, human investment in the people who show up for your organisation every day.
And we can bet you, at the end of every conversation, your team member will say: “Nobody has ever asked me those questions before. Thank you.”
We love helping organisations across the UAE build HR systems that actually develop their people, so if you want to explore what that could look like for your team, please reach out. These are genuinely some of our favourite conversations to have.
